Husbands: Duty of, to Wives: To Love Them
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The duty of husbands to love their wives is a central tenet in Christian marital ethics, deeply rooted in biblical teachings. This duty is not merely a suggestion but a command that reflects the relationship between Christ and the Church. The love a husband is called to exhibit is sacrificial, unconditional, and nurturing, mirroring the love Christ has for His followers.

Biblical Foundation

The primary scriptural basis for this duty is found in Ephesians 5:25-28 : "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her to sanctify her, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to Himself as a glorious church, without stain or wrinkle or any such blemish, but holy and blameless. In the same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself."

This passage emphasizes the sacrificial nature of a husband's love, paralleling the self-giving love of Christ. It calls husbands to prioritize their wives' spiritual and emotional well-being, fostering an environment where they can flourish.

Sacrificial Love

The love described in Ephesians is agape love, characterized by selflessness and sacrifice. Just as Christ gave Himself for the Church, husbands are called to put their wives' needs above their own, demonstrating a love that is willing to endure hardship and make personal sacrifices for the benefit of their wives.

Nurturing and Cherishing

Ephesians 5:29 further elaborates: "After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Christ does the church." This nurturing aspect of love involves providing for the physical, emotional, and spiritual needs of the wife. It is a call to cherish and honor her, recognizing her as a precious gift from God.

Mutual Respect and Honor

While the husband's duty to love is emphasized, it is also intertwined with mutual respect and honor. 1 Peter 3:7 instructs: "Husbands, in the same way, treat your wives with consideration as a delicate vessel, and with honor as fellow heirs of the gracious gift of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered." This verse highlights the importance of understanding and honoring the wife, acknowledging her equal standing in the grace of life.

Love as a Reflection of Christ's Love

The love a husband shows his wife is a reflection of Christ's love for the Church. It is a profound mystery that serves as a testimony to the world of the transformative power of the Gospel. Colossians 3:19 reinforces this duty: "Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them." This command underscores the importance of gentleness and kindness, avoiding any form of harshness or bitterness.

Conclusion

The duty of husbands to love their wives is a divine mandate that calls for a deep, abiding, and sacrificial love. It is a love that seeks the highest good of the wife, honors her as a co-heir in Christ, and reflects the love of Christ to the world. Through this love, the marital relationship becomes a living testimony of the Gospel, demonstrating the unity and love that God intends for His people.
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Ephesians 5:25-33
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
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Colossians 3:19
Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them.
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Love of God and Man
... philanthropy,"we will try to do our duty where God ... not commanded us to love our wives,
our children ... that He takes away people's children, husbands, and friends ...
/.../kingsley/all saints day and other sermons/sermon xvii love of god.htm

Of the Agreement of the Evangelists Matthew and Luke in the ...
... to more children, how many soever more husbands she might ... descended to that intercourse
only through duty, and did ... Love your wives then, but love them chastely ...
/.../sermons on selected lessons of the new testament/sermon i of the agreement.htm

Letter xv. Social and Relative Duties.
... see that she reverence her husband." "Likewise ye wives be in subjection to your
own husbands." There can be ... In such cases, it would be duty to remain, and ...
/.../letter xv social and relative.htm

Of the Loving of God in Ourselves and Other Creatures...
... Great grace required to practise this duty aright. ... which children owe to their parents,
and the affections mutually due between husbands and wives, &c., be ...
/.../chapter v of the loving.htm

The Evolution of a Father
... Even among cannibals, where the shocking treatment of Wives by their Husbands is
in ... law; it is a purely personal and local code; but the word duty has at ...
/.../the lowell lectures on the ascent of man/chapter ix the evolution of.htm

Thankfulness for Mercies Received, a Necessary Duty
... Indeed, I cannot say, I have discharged my duty towards you ... have spoken to you, I
hope your wives also will ... that you be subject to your own husbands, in every ...
/.../selected sermons of george whitefield/thankfulness for mercies received a.htm

Christ the Believer's Husband
... examining what is required of truly Christian wives, under the ... husband." It is, no
doubt, the duty of married women to think highly of their husbands. ...
/.../selected sermons of george whitefield/christ the believers husband.htm

Getting Ready to Enter Canaan
... "Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and ... That you may
see what your duty is in the matter, permit reference to these things: ...
/.../berry/adventures in the land of canaan/chapter one getting ready to.htm

The Christian Home
... life, and in the bringing up of children the bond which needs to be strengthened,
and the duty which needs ... Paul says, "Husbands love your wives, even as ...
/.../sell/studies in the life of the christian/study x the christian home.htm

The Domestic Relation.
... It is his duty to glean knowledge from the same and dwell with her accordingly. ...
"Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them." Col.3:19. ...
/.../orr/the gospel day /chapter xiii the domestic relation.htm

Resources
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