Family Conflict
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Family conflict is a recurring theme throughout the Bible, reflecting the complexities and challenges inherent in human relationships. From the earliest narratives in Genesis to the teachings of the New Testament, Scripture provides both examples of familial strife and guidance for resolution and reconciliation.

Old Testament Examples

1. Cain and Abel: The first recorded family conflict in the Bible is between Cain and Abel, the sons of Adam and Eve. Driven by jealousy and anger, Cain murders his brother Abel. This tragic event illustrates the destructive power of unchecked emotions and the consequences of sin. Genesis 4:8 states, "Cain said to his brother Abel, 'Let us go out to the field.' And while they were in the field, Cain attacked his brother Abel and killed him."

2. Jacob and Esau: The account of Jacob and Esau highlights issues of favoritism and deception within a family. Isaac favored Esau, while Rebekah favored Jacob, leading to a series of deceitful acts that culminated in Jacob stealing Esau's blessing. This conflict resulted in years of estrangement. Genesis 27:41 notes, "Esau held a grudge against Jacob because of the blessing his father had given him."

3. Joseph and His Brothers: Joseph's relationship with his brothers is marked by jealousy and betrayal. His brothers' envy of Joseph's favored status and his dreams led them to sell him into slavery. Despite this, Joseph later forgives them, demonstrating the power of reconciliation. Genesis 50:20 records Joseph's words, "As for you, what you intended against me for evil, God intended for good, in order to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives."

New Testament Teachings

1. Jesus on Family Division: Jesus acknowledged that His message could cause division even within families. In Matthew 10:34-36 , He states, "Do not assume that I have come to bring peace to the earth; I have not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I have come to turn 'a man against his father, a daughter against her mother, a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law. A man’s enemies will be the members of his own household.'"

2. Parable of the Prodigal Son: This parable, found in Luke 15:11-32, illustrates themes of repentance, forgiveness, and reconciliation within a family. The younger son's return and the father's forgiving embrace highlight the importance of grace and restoration in resolving family conflicts.

3. Paul's Instructions: The Apostle Paul provides practical advice for family relationships, emphasizing love, respect, and submission. In Ephesians 6:1-4 , he writes, "Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 'Honor your father and mother'... Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger; instead, bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord."

Principles for Resolution

The Bible offers several principles for resolving family conflict:

· Forgiveness: Central to Christian teaching is the call to forgive as God forgives. Colossians 3:13 advises, "Bear with one another and forgive any complaint you may have against someone else. Forgive as the Lord forgave you."

· Communication and Reconciliation: Open and honest communication is vital. Matthew 18:15 encourages addressing grievances directly: "If your brother sins against you, go and confront him privately. If he listens to you, you have won your brother over."

· Love and Humility: Love is the foundation of all relationships. 1 Peter 4:8 states, "Above all, love one another deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins." Humility, as taught in Philippians 2:3 , is also essential: "Do nothing out of selfish ambition or empty pride, but in humility consider others more important than yourselves."

Family conflict, while challenging, is an opportunity for growth and deeper reliance on God's wisdom and grace. Through Scripture, believers are equipped to navigate these difficulties with faith and love.
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1 Timothy 5:8
But if any provide not for his own, and specially for those of his own house, he has denied the faith, and is worse than an infidel.
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Matthew 5:38-39
You have heard that it has been said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth:
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... about the believer or congregation whose private, family, and public praying is
neglected or thought little of. Prayer is, therefore, a "great conflict." It is ...
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Days of Conflict
... The DESIRE of AGES Chapter 9 Days of Conflict. ... "It is written" was His
reason for every act that varied from the family customs. ...
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The Impending Conflict
... The last great conflict between truth and error is but the final struggle of the ...
marriage vow would no longer stand as a sacred bulwark to protect the family. ...
/.../white/the great controversy/chapter 36 the impending conflict.htm

The Impending Conflict.
... The last great conflict between truth and error is but the final struggle of the ...
marriage vow would no longer stand as a sacred bulwark to protect the family. ...
/.../the great controversy between christ and satan /36 the impending conflict.htm

The Conflict with Evil
... and sexually weak; a man who domineers and cows his wife and family; a woman ... God
and loyal fellow-workers of their fellow-men means constructive conflict of a ...
/.../rauschenbusch/the social principles of jesus/chapter x the conflict with.htm

Conflict.
... Apostle addresses his readers as members of the Church in its conflict with men. ...
like a root that beareth gall and wormwood," spreads through "a family or tribe ...
/.../the expositors bible the epistle to the hebrews/chapter xiv conflict.htm

The Comer's Conflict with Satan
... it may be that thus God will deliver thee from that desperate conflict into which ...
another of my subjects going; my empire is being thinned; my family is being ...
/.../spurgeon/spurgeons sermons volume 2 1856/the comers conflict with satan.htm

The Puritan Conflict.
... While the fierce conflict about religion was raging, there were prophetic men of
moderation and ... Cromwell had, for his own sake and that of his family, so much ...
/.../ 92 the puritan conflict.htm

Epistle xxxiii. To the Clergy and People, About the Ordination of ...
... by a miracle, with the long-abiding and permanent penalties of a tedious conflict. ...
could he, therefore, be degenerate and inferior whom this family dignity and ...
/.../cyprian/the epistles of cyprian/epistle xxxiii to the clergy.htm

The Suffering of Love.
... against it in the Spirit of holiness, there is trouble and strife in the family. ...
against the Holy Spirit, and then we are lost; or after long conflict the Holy ...
/.../kuyper/the work of the holy spirit/xxviii the suffering of love.htm

Resources
What does the Bible say about family? | GotQuestions.org

What does the Bible say about family conflict? | GotQuestions.org

How does the Bible define a good Christian family? | GotQuestions.org

Family: Dictionary and Thesaurus | Clyx.com

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