Friendship: Job and his Three "Friends"
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The story of Job and his three friends is a profound narrative found in the Old Testament, specifically in the Book of Job. This account explores themes of suffering, divine justice, and the complexities of human friendship. Job, a man described as "blameless and upright" (Job 1:1), experiences immense suffering, losing his wealth, children, and health. In his time of distress, three friends—Eliphaz the Temanite, Bildad the Shuhite, and Zophar the Naamathite—come to offer their support.

The Arrival of the Friends

Upon hearing of Job's calamities, his three friends make an appointment to visit him, intending to "sympathize with him and comfort him" (Job 2:11). Their initial response is one of genuine empathy; they weep, tear their robes, and sit with Job in silence for seven days and nights, recognizing the depth of his grief (Job 2:12-13). This silent companionship is often seen as the pinnacle of their support, demonstrating the power of presence in times of suffering.

The Dialogues and Debates

The silence eventually gives way to a series of dialogues between Job and his friends, spanning much of the book. Each friend, in turn, attempts to explain Job's suffering through the lens of retributive justice, a common belief that suffering is a direct result of personal sin. Eliphaz suggests that Job's suffering is a form of divine discipline (Job 4:7-8), Bildad insists on the justice of God and urges Job to repent (Job 8:3-6), and Zophar bluntly accuses Job of deserving even greater punishment (Job 11:6).

Throughout these exchanges, Job maintains his innocence and expresses frustration with his friends' inability to understand his plight. He accuses them of being "miserable comforters" (Job 16:2) and challenges their simplistic theology. The dialogues highlight the limitations of human wisdom and the danger of presuming to fully understand God's ways.

Theological Implications

The interactions between Job and his friends raise important theological questions about the nature of suffering and the character of God. The friends' insistence on a cause-and-effect relationship between sin and suffering is ultimately rebuked by God Himself. In the divine speeches, God addresses Job, emphasizing His sovereignty and the mystery of His creation (Job 38-41). God later expresses anger toward the three friends for not speaking truthfully about Him, as Job has (Job 42:7).

Restoration and Reconciliation

In the conclusion of the narrative, God instructs the three friends to offer burnt offerings and asks Job to pray for them, which Job does (Job 42:8-9). This act of intercession leads to their reconciliation and Job's restoration. The resolution underscores the themes of forgiveness and the restoration of relationships, highlighting the importance of humility and repentance in the face of divine mystery.

Lessons on Friendship

The story of Job and his three friends offers timeless lessons on friendship. It illustrates the value of empathy and presence, the pitfalls of assuming knowledge of God's purposes, and the necessity of humility in human relationships. True friendship, as depicted in this narrative, involves not only sharing in joy and prosperity but also standing alongside one another in times of deep suffering, even when answers are elusive.

In summary, the account of Job and his three friends serves as a profound exploration of friendship, suffering, and divine justice, offering insights that continue to resonate with believers today.
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Job 2:11-13
Now when Job's three friends heard of all this evil that was come on him, they came every one from his own place; Eliphaz the Temanite, and Bildad the Shuhite, and Zophar the Naamathite: for they had made an appointment together to come to mourn with him and to comfort him.
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Virtue must Never be Given up for the Sake of a Friend. ...
... this the worst point on which to condemn his treachery, namely ... their friend, so that
the prayer of friendship might win ... Therefore Job asked and God pardoned. ...
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Blessed Adversity.
... the sorrow, restored to him the love and friendship of those ... and blessed the latter
end of Job more than ... His sheep, his camels, his oxen, and his asses, were ...
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That the Friendship of Good Men Cannot be Securely Rested In, So ...
... For if their life has solaced us with the charms of friendship, can it be ... contrive
so to use them that no sweetness shall distil into his spirit. ... [1274] Job 7:1 ...
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The Intercourse of God and his Friend
... The effect of friendship with God is not to make ... of the seventy-third Psalm, or of
Job and Ecclesiastes ... friend of God, because no facts in his experience had ...
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Notes
... only are proper objects of charity"friendship not trustworthy ... as the dark ways of
providence which Job and his ... idea of the Creator's joy in his creation"a ...
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Book Three the Story of his Student Days in Carthage, his ...
... I lived with them, and at times I was delighted with their friendship, even when ...
Job 2:7, 8. ... had in mind is God's command to Abraham to offer up his son Isaac ...
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But, Says Some One, "Are These Things to be Understood of the Lord ...
... and spitting." This also is written among His other sufferings ... the phrase "xenium,"
"A pledge of friendship," this also ... this also it is written in Job, "May the ...
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A Continuation of Mr. Bunyan's Life, Beginning Where He Left Off ...
... them, as it happened in the case of Job's praying for ... all that lay in his power to
his word, not ... loving to reconcile differences, and make friendship with all ...
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Aaron, his Office no Palliation of his Sin, 61.
... Gregory, of Nazianzus, his friendship for Olympias, [168]287. ... Job, his thanksgiving
amidst affliction, [223]183 ... Patriarch of Alexandria, his intrigues against ...
/.../chrysostom/on the priesthood/aaron his office no palliation.htm

Messiah Unpitied, and Without a Comforter
... a person for converse or society (compare Job 30:29 ... possible, for some relief or
alleviation of His misery. ... by those who have expressed great friendship, or are ...
/.../newton/messiah vol 1/sermon xxii messiah unpitied and.htm

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