Ephesians 5
Berean Study Bible

Imitators of God

Be imitators of God,

Believers are called to reflect God’s holy, loving, merciful, and righteous character in their conduct. Having been made new in Christ, they are to reject the patterns of their former life and follow the example God has revealed through His Son.

Mat 5:48 Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.
1Pe 1:15-16 But just as He who called you is holy, so be holy…
Luk 6:36 Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful.

therefore,

This command follows Paul’s instruction about putting away sin, speaking truth, forgiving others, and living according to the new nature. God’s saving work establishes both the basis and the pattern for this changed life.

Rom 12:1-2 Therefore I urge you, brothers, on account of God’s mercy,…
2Co 5:14-15 For Christ’s love compels us, because we are convinced…
Tit 2:11-12 For the grace of God has appeared, bringing salvation…

as beloved children,

Christians belong to God’s family through faith in Christ and are deeply and unconditionally loved by their Father. As children normally learn from their parents, they are to grow in a manner that reflects the character of the One who has adopted them.

1Jn 3:1-2 Behold what manner of love the Father has given to us,…
Rom 8:15-17 For you did not receive a spirit of slavery…
Gal 4:6-7 And because you are sons, God sent the Spirit of His Son…

and walk in love,

Believers are to make love the governing pattern of daily conduct, expressing devotion to God through selfless care for others.

Jhn 13:34 A new commandment I give you: Love one another.…
1Jn 4:7 Beloved, let us love one another, because love comes from God.…
Rom 13:10 Love does no wrong to its neighbor. Therefore love is…

just as Christ loved us

Christ’s love was revealed in His coming into the world, serving sinners, and bearing their need despite their unworthiness.

Rom 5:8 But God proves His love for us in this:…
Jhn 15:13 Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life…
Gal 2:20 I have been crucified with Christ, and I no longer live,…

and gave Himself up for us

His death was voluntary and sacrificial, offered in the place of those He came to save.

Mrk 10:45 For even the Son of Man did not come to be served,…
Gal 1:4 who gave Himself for our sins to rescue us…
1Ti 2:6 who gave Himself as a ransom for all—the testimony…

as a fragrant sacrificial offering to God.

Like the acceptable offerings of Israel’s worship, Christ’s sacrifice fully pleased the Father and accomplished the reconciliation of His people to God.

Php 4:18 I have all I need and more, now that I have…
Gen 8:21 When the LORD smelled the pleasing aroma,…
2Co 2:15 For we are to God the sweet aroma of Christ…

But among you,

“But among you” marks a clear contrast between pagan patterns and the holy conduct expected of believers. The church was to stand apart from the practices common in Ephesus and the wider Roman world, with each believer sharing responsibility for preserving a holy witness.

1Co 5:1 It is actually reported that there is sexual immorality…
1Co 5:11 But now I am writing you not to associate with anyone…

as is proper among the saints,

Those who belonged to God were called to live in a manner consistent with their new identity. Holiness was expected of the entire community, not reserved for a select few.

1Pe 1:15-16 But just as He who called you is holy, so be holy…
Heb 12:14 Pursue peace with everyone, as well as holiness,…

there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality,

Christians must not tolerate or normalize sexual immorality. God calls His people to live in clear separation from sexual sin.

1Th 4:3-5 For it is God’s will that you should be holy:…
Heb 13:4 Marriage should be honored by all and the marriage bed…

or of any kind of impurity,

“Or any kind of impurity” broadens the prohibition to include every form of moral uncleanness in conduct, speech, and thought. Such impurity contradicted the holy life to which God had called His people.

Col 3:5 Put to death, therefore, the components…
2Co 7:1 Therefore, beloved, since we have these promises,…

or of greed.

Covetous desire was equally incompatible with Christian faith, since it elevates possessions and personal gain above devotion to God and concern for others.

Luk 12:15 And he said to them, “Watch out! Guard yourselves…
1Ti 6:9-10 Those who want to be rich, however, fall into temptation…

Nor should there be obscenity,

Believers were to reject indecent speech and conduct common in Ephesian public life and pagan entertainment. Such behavior belonged to the former way of life, not to those set apart for God.

Eph 4:29 Let no unwholesome talk come out of your mouths,…
Col 3:8 But now you must put aside anger, rage, malice…
Pro 4:24 Put away deception from your mouth; keep your lips…

foolish talk,

Empty, careless speech also failed to reflect the wisdom and self-control expected of Christians.

2Ti 2:16 But avoid irreverent, empty chatter, which will only lead…
Tit 1:10 For many are rebellious and full of empty talk…
Tit 3:9 But avoid foolish controversies, genealogies, arguments,…

or crude joking,

Vulgar humor, sexual innuendo, and remarks that demean others were unsuitable for a people called to honor God in every part of life.

Pro 26:18-19 Like a madman shooting firebrands and deadly arrows,…
Jas 3:10-12 Out of the same mouth come blessing and cursing.…
Col 4:6 Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt…

which are out of character,

These practices contradicted the new identity believers had received in Christ and the holy conduct required of them.

1Pe 1:15-16 But just as He who called you is holy, so be holy…
1Th 4:7 For God has not called us to impurity, but to holiness.
2Co 7:1 Therefore, beloved, since we have these promises,…

but rather thanksgiving.

Gratitude to God was to shape their speech, replacing corrupt conversation with words that acknowledged His grace and goodness.

1Th 5:18 Give thanks in every circumstance, for this is…
Col 3:17 And whatever you do, in word or deed, do it all…
Heb 13:15 Through Jesus, therefore, let us continually offer to God…

For of this you can be sure:

Paul gives an unambiguous warning grounded in God’s authority. Those who profess faith are not free to treat sin as harmless or compatible with life under Christ’s rule.

1Co 6:9-10 Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral…
Gal 5:21 and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like.…
Col 3:6 Because of these, the wrath of God is coming…

No immoral, impure, or greedy person

Persistent sexual sin, moral corruption, and covetousness reveal a heart set against God’s holiness. Greed is included because the desire for possessions, status, or pleasure can govern a person’s life.

Col 3:5 Put to death, therefore, the components…
Heb 13:4-5 Marriage should be honored by all and the marriage bed…
1Th 4:3-5 For it is God’s will that you should be holy:…

(that is, an idolater)

Whatever takes God’s place as the ruling devotion of the heart becomes an idol. Covetousness gives created things the loyalty and trust that belong to God alone.

1Jn 5:21 Little children, keep yourselves from idols.
Mat 6:24 No one can serve two masters: Either he will hate the one…
Exo 20:3-5 You shall have no other gods before Me.…

has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.

God’s kingdom belongs to Christ and is shared fully with the Father. Those who remain characterized by rebellion against God will not receive its promised blessings, for such a life is incompatible with the kingdom’s righteous rule.

Col 1:12-14 giving thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share…
2Pe 1:11 and you will receive a lavish reception…
Mat 25:34 Then the King will say to those on His right,…

Let no one deceive you with empty words,

Believers must not be persuaded by teaching that excuses sin or denies God’s moral standards. False teachers in the early church often offered spiritual claims that separated conduct from accountability, but the gospel calls for truth in both belief and life.

Tit 1:10 For many are rebellious and full of empty talk…
Col 2:8 See to it that no one takes you captive…
2Th 2:3 Let no one deceive you in any way, for it will not come…

for because of such things

Sexual immorality, impurity, greed, and every form of rebellion against God are serious offenses. Such sins reflect rejection of the Creator’s authority and corrupt both individuals and communities.

Col 3:6 Because of these, the wrath of God is coming…
1Th 4:6 no one should ever violate or exploit his brother…
Rom 1:32 Although they know God’s righteous decree…

the wrath of God is coming

God’s judgment against sin is certain. His wrath is the righteous response of a holy God to evil, and it will be fully revealed when He judges the world.

1Th 1:10 to await His Son from heaven, whom He raised…
Rom 2:5 But because of your hard and unrepentant heart,…
Jhn 3:36 Whoever believes in the Son has eternal life…

on the sons of disobedience.

Those who continually resist God and live according to rebellion remain under judgment. Their pattern of disobedience stands in contrast to those who have been made new in Christ and called to walk in holiness.

Eph 2:2 in which you used to walk when you conformed…
2Th 1:8 in blazing fire, inflicting vengeance…
1Pe 2:8 “A stone of stumbling and a rock of offense.”…

Therefore

Paul draws the necessary conclusion from his warning about those whose lives are marked by sexual immorality, impurity, greed, and deceptive speech.

Rom 12:2 Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed…
1Pe 4:3-4 For you have spent enough time in the past…
Col 3:5 Put to death, therefore, the components…

do not be partakers

Believers must not share in such sins or give approval to those who practice them. Faith in Christ requires a changed manner of life.

2Co 6:14-17 Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.…
1Co 5:9-11 I wrote you in my letter not to associate…
Rev 18:4 Then I heard another voice from heaven say:…

with them.

The disobedient world of Ephesus was deeply shaped by idolatry and moral corruption. Christians were to remain distinct from those patterns rather than being drawn into them.

1Ti 5:22 Do not be too quick in the laying on of hands…
2Jn 1:10-11 If anyone comes to you but does not bring this teaching…
Pro 1:10-15 My son, if sinners entice you, do not yield to them.…

Children of Light

For you were once darkness,

Before coming to Christ, the Ephesian believers lived under sin’s dominion, alienated from God and shaped by the fallen world around them. Their condition was not merely ignorance of truth but inward moral and spiritual darkness.

Col 1:13 He has rescued us from the dominion of darkness…
Act 26:18 open their eyes, so that they may turn from darkness…
1Pe 2:9 But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood…

but now you are light in the Lord.

Through union with Christ, they had been brought into God’s truth, holiness, and saving presence. The change came from the Lord’s work, not from human effort or self-reform.

Mat 5:14 You are the light of the world. A city on a hill…
2Co 4:6 For God, who said, “Let light shine out of darkness,”…
Php 2:15 you may be blameless and pure, children of God without fault…

Walk as children of light,

Their daily conduct was to reflect the new life they had received. As God’s people, they were to reject the sins associated with their former life and live openly in goodness, righteousness, and truth.

1Th 5:5-8 For you are all sons of the light and sons of the day;…
Jhn 12:35-36 Then Jesus told them, “For a little while longer…
1Jn 1:7 But if we walk in the light as He is in the light,…

for the fruit of the light

Light represents the life that comes from God and stands in contrast to the moral darkness of the former way of life. Those united to Christ are to display the visible effects of belonging to Him.

Php 1:11 filled with the fruit of righteousness…
Col 1:10 so that you may walk in a manner worthy of the Lord…
Jhn 12:36 While you have the Light, believe in the Light,…

consists in all goodness,

Goodness includes upright character and active concern for what benefits others. It reflects God’s will in conduct, motives, and relationships.

Rom 15:14 I myself am convinced, my brothers, that you yourselves…
Gal 5:22-23 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace…
Tit 3:8 This saying is trustworthy. And I want you to emphasize…

righteousness,

Righteousness is conformity to God’s standards, expressed in just and faithful living. Believers who have been made right with God through Christ are called to live in a manner consistent with that new standing.

Eph 4:24 and to put on the new self, created to be like God…
Rom 14:17 For the kingdom of God is not a matter…
Heb 12:11 No discipline seems enjoyable at the time, but painful.…

and truth.

Truth includes honesty, integrity, and faithfulness to God’s revealed word. It rejects deception and gives stability to the life and fellowship of the church.

Jhn 17:17 Sanctify them by the truth; Your word is truth.
Jhn 18:37 “Then You are a king!” Pilate said. You say that I am a king…
1Jn 1:6 If we say we have fellowship with Him yet walk in…

Test and prove

Believers are to examine their conduct, attitudes, and choices by God’s revealed will, rejecting the patterns of the surrounding pagan culture. In Ephesus, idolatry, magic, and immorality were common, but those brought from darkness into Christ were to live distinctly as children of light.

1Th 5:21 but test all things. Hold fast to what is good.
Rom 12:2 Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed…
2Co 13:5 Examine yourselves to see whether you are in the faith;…

what pleases the Lord.

The Lord’s approval, rather than personal desire or social custom, governs Christian conduct. Such a life is marked by obedience, faithfulness, truth, purity, and love, exposing rather than sharing in the works of darkness.

Col 1:10 so that you may walk in a manner worthy of the Lord…
1Th 4:1 Finally, brothers, we ask and encourage you…
Heb 13:21 equip you with every good thing to do His will.…

Have no fellowship with the fruitless deeds of darkness,

Believers must not participate in, approve of, or form alliances with sinful conduct. Such works belong to darkness because they oppose God’s truth and are often concealed from open examination. They produce no lasting good and are inconsistent with the holy life God requires.

2Co 6:14 Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers.…
1Jn 1:6 If we say we have fellowship with Him yet walk in…
Rom 13:12 The night is nearly over; the day has drawn near.…

but rather expose them.

Sin is brought into the light by truthful conduct, faithful witness, and necessary correction. The purpose is not careless accusation but the revelation of evil for what it is, so that conviction may lead to repentance and restoration.

Jhn 3:20 Everyone who does evil hates the Light…
1Ti 5:20 But those who persist in sin should be rebuked…
Tit 1:13 This testimony is true. Therefore rebuke them sternly,…

For it is shameful even to mention

The immoral practices common in pagan Ephesus were not fitting subjects for Christian speech or thought. Sin corrupts those who practice it and stands opposed to the holiness God requires of His people.

Jer 8:12 Are they ashamed of the abomination they have…
Jer 6:15 Are they ashamed of the abomination they have committed?……
Rom 1:27 Likewise, the men abandoned natural relations with women…

what the disobedient do in secret.

Those who reject God’s commands often conceal their deeds because they know they are evil. Believers were to separate themselves from such conduct and live openly in a manner consistent with the light of Christ.

Jhn 3:19-20 And this is the verdict: The Light has come into the world……
1Co 4:5 Therefore judge nothing before the appointed time;…
Luk 12:2-3 There is nothing concealed that will not be disclosed…

But everything exposed by the light becomes visible,

Christ’s truth reveals sin for what it is, bringing hidden deeds, motives, and patterns of life into the open. Paul contrasts the former darkness of unbelief with the holiness God requires of those who belong to Him. Exposure is not merely condemnation; it confronts what is evil so that repentance and change may follow.

Jhn 3:19-21 And this is the verdict: The Light has come into the world……
1Co 14:24-25 But if an unbeliever or uninstructed person comes in…
Luk 8:17 For there is nothing hidden that will not be disclosed…

for everything that is illuminated becomes a light itself.

Those brought out of darkness by Christ are changed by His presence. As believers grow in obedience, their lives increasingly display the righteousness, goodness, and truth that distinguish God’s people from the surrounding world. The light that exposes sin also produces a new way of life that bears witness to Christ.

Mat 5:14-16 You are the light of the world. A city on a hill…
Jhn 12:35-36 Then Jesus told them, “For a little while longer…
Php 2:15 you may be blameless and pure, children of God without fault…

So it is said:

Paul introduces a saying apparently known among early Christians, possibly drawn from a hymn or confession used in worship. Its familiar form gives added weight to the call that follows.

Eph 4:8 This is why it says: “When He ascended on high,…
Rom 15:10 Again, it says: “Rejoice, O Gentiles, with His people.”
Heb 3:7 Therefore, as the Holy Spirit says: “Today, if you hear…”…

“Wake up, O sleeper,

Spiritual sleep describes believers who have grown careless, compromised, or indifferent to God’s will. They are summoned to renewed alertness and obedience.

Rom 13:11 And do this, understanding the occasion. The hour has come…
1Th 5:6 So then, let us not sleep as the others do,…
Isa 52:1 Awake, awake, clothe yourself with strength, O Zion!…

rise up from the dead,

Sin belongs to the realm of death, but Christ has given His people new life. The command calls for conduct consistent with their deliverance from sin and their union with the risen Lord.

1Th 4:16 For the Lord Himself will descend from heaven…
1Co 15:52 in an instant, in the twinkling of an eye…
Isa 26:19 Your dead will live; their bodies will rise.…

and Christ will shine on you.”

Christ gives light to those who turn from darkness, revealing truth and directing their lives according to God’s purposes. His light also enables believers to display His righteousness before a darkened world.

Isa 60:1 Arise, shine, for your light has come…
Isa 60:2 For behold, darkness covers the earth, and thick darkness…
2Co 4:6 For God, who said, “Let light shine out of darkness,”…

Pay careful attention, then, to how you walk,

Believers are to examine their conduct deliberately, since life in Ephesus was surrounded by idolatry, immorality, and practices opposed to God’s commands. Christian conduct is not to be shaped by the surrounding culture but by obedience to the Lord.

Pro 4:26 Make a level path for your feet, and all your ways…
Pro 14:15 The simple man believes every word, but the prudent man…
1Th 4:1 Finally, brothers, we ask and encourage you…

not as unwise but as wise,

Wisdom is shown through discerning choices and faithful conduct, not merely knowledge. The wise recognize God’s will and live accordingly, while the unwise follow desires and influences that lead away from Him.

Pro 28:26 He who trusts in himself is a fool, but one who walks…
Pro 14:16 A wise man fears and turns from evil, but a fool…
Jas 3:13 Who is wise and understanding among you?…

redeeming the time,

Believers are to use each opportunity wisely, recognizing that time belongs to God and should be directed toward obedience, service, and spiritual faithfulness. Paul calls the church to act deliberately rather than drift with the values of the surrounding world.

Col 4:5 Act wisely toward outsiders, redeeming the time.
Rom 13:11-12 And do this, understanding the occasion. The hour has come…
Gal 6:10 Therefore, as we have opportunity, let us do good…

because the days are evil.

The present age is marked by sin, deception, and opposition to God’s will. In a culture shaped by pagan worship and moral corruption, the Ephesian believers needed discernment and steadfastness. The same fallen condition makes vigilance necessary, so that Christians may live faithfully amid darkness.

Ecc 12:1 Remember your Creator in the days of your youth,…
Gen 47:9 “My travels have lasted 130 years,” Jacob replied.…
Amo 5:13 Therefore, the prudent keep silent in such times…

Therefore do not be foolish,

Believers are warned not to live by the values and patterns of the surrounding world. In Ephesus, pagan worship, immorality, and spiritual deception were common, making discernment essential. Foolishness is seen in disregarding God’s truth and choosing a life contrary to His commands.

Pro 1:7 The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge,…
Pro 12:15 The way of a fool is right in his own eyes,…
Pro 14:16 A wise man fears and turns from evil, but a fool…

but understand what the Lord’s will is.

God’s will is made known through His Word and is to shape the conduct of His people. Christians are called to recognize what pleases God, reject sinful practices, and live in obedience to Christ. Such understanding produces lives marked by holiness, wisdom, and faithfulness amid a culture opposed to God.

Rom 12:2 Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed…
Col 1:9 we have not stopped praying for you and asking God…
Jas 1:5 Now if any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God,…

Do not get drunk on wine,

Wine was a common drink in the ancient world, but drunkenness brought loss of judgment, self-control, and moral restraint. God’s people were not to be ruled by intoxicating drink or the conduct it produces.

Pro 23:20-21 Do not join those who drink too much wine…
Pro 20:1 Wine is a mocker, strong drink is a brawler,…
Luk 21:34 But watch yourselves, or your hearts will be weighed down…

which leads to reckless indiscretion.

Drunkenness opens the way to wasteful, immoral, and destructive behavior. What begins as indulgence can lead to shame, broken relationships, and sin.

Pro 23:29-35 Who has woe? Who has sorrow? Who has contentions?…
Rom 13:13 Let us behave decently, as in the daytime,…
1Pe 4:3 For you have spent enough time in the past…

Instead, be filled with the Spirit.

Believers are to live under the continuing influence and control of the Holy Spirit. His work produces obedience, worship, gratitude, mutual submission, and conduct that reflects Christ.

Act 2:4 And they were all filled with the Holy Spirit…
Act 4:31 After they had prayed, their meeting place was shaken…
Act 13:52 And the disciples were filled with joy…

Speak to one another with psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs.

Christian worship was shared as well as personal, with believers strengthening one another through sung Scripture, praise, and songs shaped by the Spirit’s truth. The gathered church used music to teach, encourage, and keep the work of Christ before its members.

Col 3:16 Let the word of Christ richly dwell within you…
1Co 14:26 What then shall we say, brothers? When you come together,…
Heb 2:12 He says: “I will proclaim Your name to My brothers; ……

Sing and make music in your hearts to the Lord,

Worship rises from sincere inward devotion, not merely audible performance or outward form. Whether expressed publicly or privately, the believer’s praise is directed to the Lord and offered for His glory.

Psa 57:7 My heart is steadfast, O God, my heart is steadfast.…
Psa 108:1 A song. A Psalm of David. My heart is steadfast, O God;…
Jas 5:13 Is any one of you suffering? He should pray.…

always giving thanks

Believers are to live with steady gratitude, not limiting thanks to favorable circumstances. Thanksgiving recognizes God’s goodness, rule over life, and faithful care in every season.

Col 1:3 We always thank God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ,…
1Th 1:2 We always thank God for all of you, remembering you…
Psa 34:1 Of David, when he pretended to be insane before Abimelech,…

to God the Father

Gratitude is directed to the Father, who has received His people into His family through Christ. They approach Him not as an unknown power but as the personal and holy God who provides, corrects, and preserves His children.

Col 1:12 giving thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share…
2Co 1:3 Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ,…
1Pe 1:3 Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ!…

for everything

God’s providence extends over blessings, trials, daily needs, and every circumstance permitted within His purpose. Early Christians often endured opposition and hardship, yet they were called to trust that God remained at work.

1Th 5:18 Give thanks in every circumstance, for this is…
Php 4:6 Be anxious for nothing, but in everything, by prayer…
Rom 8:28 And we know that God works all things together for good…

in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.

All thanksgiving is offered through Jesus Christ, whose sacrifice reconciles believers to the Father. His name expresses His authority and mediation, and the access to God secured by His saving work.

Col 3:17 And whatever you do, in word or deed, do it all…
Jhn 14:13 And I will do whatever you ask in My name…
Jhn 16:23 In that day you will no longer ask Me anything.…

Wives and Husbands

Submit to one another

Believers are called to pursue humility, willingly serving fellow Christians rather than insisting on personal status or advantage. In a society ordered by rank and authority, the church was to display unity through love, care, and self-denial. This shared humility does not erase God-given responsibilities or authority within the home and church, but governs how each believer carries them out.

Php 2:3-4 Do nothing out of selfish ambition or empty pride,…
Gal 5:13 For you, brothers, were called to freedom;…
1Pe 5:5 Young men, in the same way, submit yourselves…

out of reverence for Christ.

Submission to one another flows from reverence, or deep respect, for Christ as Lord. His sacrificial service sets the pattern for His people, who are to treat others with the same humility and concern that mark their devotion to Him.

Col 3:17 And whatever you do, in word or deed, do it all…
Rom 14:8-9 If we live, we live to the Lord, and if we die…
2Co 5:14-15 For Christ’s love compels us, because we are convinced…

Wives, submit to your husbands

In the first-century household, marriage carried recognized responsibilities for both husband and wife. Christian submission involves a willing respect for the husband’s God-given leadership, not inferiority, coercion, or permission for sinful treatment. It belongs within the order established by God for the home and is joined to the husband’s duty to love sacrificially.

Col 3:18 Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.
1Pe 3:1 Wives, in the same way, submit yourselves to your husbands,…
Tit 2:5 to be self-controlled, pure, managers of their households,…

as to the Lord.

A wife’s submission is rendered in devotion to Christ and remains subject to His authority. A husband is therefore not given absolute authority; his leadership must reflect the self-giving care Christ shows His people.

Eph 6:7 Serve with good will, as to the Lord and not to men,
Col 3:23 Whatever you do, work at it with your whole being,…
1Pe 3:5-6 For this is how the holy women of the past…

For the husband is the head of the wife

Marriage reflects God’s created order, in which the husband bears responsibility for loving leadership, provision, protection, and the spiritual welfare of his household. Headship is not permission for harshness or self-interest, but a calling to serve with accountability before God.

1Co 11:3 But I want you to understand that the head of every man…
1Co 11:8-9 For man did not come from woman, but woman from man.…
Gen 3:16 To the woman He said: “I will sharply increase your pain…

as Christ is the head of the church,

Christ rules His church with perfect authority, love, and sacrificial care. The husband’s leadership is to follow that pattern, seeking his wife’s good rather than his own advantage.

Eph 1:22-23 And God put everything under His feet and made Him head…
Col 1:18 And He is the head of the body, the church;…
Col 2:19 He has lost connection to the head, from whom the body…

His body,

The church belongs to Christ as a living body belongs to its head. Every believer is joined to Him and to one another, receiving life, direction, and growth from Him.

Col 1:24 Now I rejoice in my sufferings for you, and I fill up…
1Co 12:27 Now you are the body of Christ, and each of you…
Rom 12:5 so in Christ we who are many are one body,…

of which He is the Savior.

Christ alone saves His people through His death and resurrection, delivering them from sin and reconciling them to God. His saving love establishes the measure of a husband’s duty toward his wife: faithful, protective, and self-giving.

Act 20:28 Keep watch over yourselves and the entire flock…
Tit 2:13 as we await the blessed hope and glorious appearance…
1Jn 4:14 And we have seen and testify that the Father has sent…

Now as the church submits to Christ,

Christ is the head of the church, which belongs to Him as His redeemed people. The church’s submission is marked by faith, obedience, and allegiance to His authority. Though early believers faced hostility and persecution, they remained committed to Christ as Lord. Under His leadership, the church is united in purpose and service.

Col 1:18 And He is the head of the body, the church;…
Col 2:19 He has lost connection to the head, from whom the body…
Jhn 10:27 My sheep listen to My voice; I know them…

so also wives should submit to their husbands

Marriage reflects the ordered relationship between Christ and the church. A wife’s submission to her husband is willing respect for his God-given responsibility in the home, not a statement of lesser worth. The husband is likewise bound to love his wife with self-sacrificing care, following Christ’s love for the church.

Col 3:18 Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.
1Pe 3:1 Wives, in the same way, submit yourselves to your husbands,…
Tit 2:5 to be self-controlled, pure, managers of their households,…

in everything.

The wife’s submission extends throughout the ordinary life of marriage as she and her husband seek to honor God. It does not require disobedience to God or participation in sin. Christian marriage is meant to display unity, faithfulness, and the proper order established by God.

Col 3:22 Slaves, obey your earthly masters in everything,…
Tit 2:9 Slaves are to submit to their own masters in everything…
Col 3:20 Children, obey your parents in everything,…

Husbands, love your wives,

Marriage in the Roman world often centered on household order, inheritance, and social status. Husbands are commanded to love their wives with steadfast, self-giving devotion, treating them not as possessions but as those entrusted to their care.

Col 3:19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.
1Pe 3:7 Husbands, in the same way, treat your wives…
Pro 5:18-19 May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice…

just as Christ loved the church

Christ’s love for His people provides the measure for a husband’s love. He loves the church as His redeemed people, bound to Him in a covenant relationship marked by faithfulness and care.

Col 1:18 And He is the head of the body, the church;…
Act 20:28 Keep watch over yourselves and the entire flock…
Jhn 13:1 It was now just before the Passover Feast,…

and gave Himself up for her

Christ willingly gave His life in His death on the cross to save the church from sin. Husbands are therefore called to place their wives’ good above selfish interests, serving them with costly and enduring love.

Mrk 10:45 For even the Son of Man did not come to be served,…
1Jn 3:16 By this we know what love is: Jesus laid down…
Gal 2:20 I have been crucified with Christ, and I no longer live,…

to sanctify her,

Christ sets the church apart as His own, making her holy through His saving work. What Old Testament sacrifices and rituals foreshadowed is fulfilled in His once-for-all sacrifice, which establishes believers as holy before God and continues to shape them in holy living.

Heb 13:12 And so Jesus also suffered outside the city gate…
1Th 5:23 Now may the God of peace Himself sanctify…
1Th 4:3 For it is God’s will that you should be holy:…

cleansing her

Christ removes the guilt and defilement of sin, preparing His people to belong to Him in purity. The church, pictured as His bride, is cleansed from her former corruption and made ready for fellowship with Him.

1Jn 1:7 But if we walk in the light as He is in the light,…
1Jn 1:9 If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just…
Tit 2:14 He gave Himself for us to redeem us from all lawlessness…

by the washing with water

Water conveys purification and renewal, recalling the cleansing associated with baptism. The outward washing points to the inward work of regeneration, by which believers are united with Christ and begin a new life.

Tit 3:5 He saved us, not by the righteous deeds we had done…
Heb 10:22 let us draw near with a sincere heart…
Act 22:16 And now what are you waiting for? Get up…

through the word,

Christ sanctifies His people through the truth of the gospel. God’s Word reveals sin, declares forgiveness through Christ, and instructs the church in the life that accords with her holy calling.

Jhn 17:17 Sanctify them by the truth; Your word is truth.
Jhn 15:3 You are already clean because of the word…
1Pe 1:23 For you have been born again, not of perishable seed,…

and to present her to Himself as a glorious church,

Christ’s purpose is to prepare the Church as His bride and receive her in honor and splendor. The image reflects the covenant joy of a bridegroom receiving a prepared bride. Her glory comes from Christ’s redeeming work, which removes her shame and makes her fit to stand before Him.

Rev 19:7-8 Let us rejoice and be glad and give Him the glory.…
2Co 11:2 I am jealous for you with a godly jealousy…
Jud 1:24 Now to Him who is able to keep you from stumbling…

without stain or wrinkle or any such blemish,

Like offerings brought before God without defect, the Church will be free from every mark of sin, corruption, and weakness. Christ is cleansing His people completely, bringing them to spiritual purity and maturity.

2Pe 3:14 Therefore, beloved, as you anticipate these things,…
1Pe 1:19 but with the precious blood of Christ, a lamb…
Sng 4:7 You are altogether beautiful, my darling;…

but holy and blameless.

Set apart for God, the Church will stand before Christ in moral purity and integrity. What Christ has accomplished for His people will be fully displayed when He presents them perfected in His presence.

Col 1:22 But now He has reconciled you by Christ’s physical body…
1Th 3:13 He may establish your hearts in blamelessness…
1Th 5:23 Now may the God of peace Himself sanctify…

In the same way,

“In the same way” connects a husband’s love for his wife to Christ’s self-giving love for the church. Marriage is a covenant marked by faithful care, devotion, and love.

Jhn 15:12 This is My commandment, that you love one another…
1Jn 4:11 Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought…
Rom 13:8 Be indebted to no one, except to one another in love.…

husbands ought to love their wives

In a culture where husbands commonly held broad authority in the household, Paul directs that authority toward sacrificial responsibility and the good of their wives.

Col 3:19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.
1Pe 3:7 Husbands, in the same way, treat your wives…
Mal 2:14-15 Yet you ask, “Why?” It is because the LORD has been a witness…

as their own bodies.

Husband and wife are joined as one flesh, so a husband’s care for his wife should be as real and attentive as his care for himself.

Gen 2:24 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother…
1Co 6:16-17 Or don’t you know that he who unites himself……
1Co 12:26-27 If one part suffers, every part suffers with it;…

He who loves his wife loves himself.

Because marriage unites a man and woman in a shared life, love for one’s wife is not a loss to the husband but the proper care of the one with whom he is joined.

Mat 22:39 And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’
Mrk 12:31 The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’…
Lev 19:18 Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against any of your…

Indeed, no one ever hated his own body,

People ordinarily seek their own well-being, protecting and sustaining their physical lives. Paul appeals to this recognized pattern of self-care to describe the responsibility of a husband toward his wife, who is joined to him in one flesh.

1Co 6:19-20 Do you not know that your body is a temple…
1Co 7:3-4 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife,…
Lev 19:18 Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against any of your…

but he nourishes and cherishes it,

A man provides for his body and treats it with care; likewise, he is to provide for and value his wife. Such care includes practical provision, protection, tenderness, and faithful devotion within marriage.

1Th 2:7-8 On the contrary, we were gentle among you…
Psa 23:1-2 A Psalm of David. The LORD is my shepherd; I shall not want.…
Isa 40:11 He tends His flock like a shepherd; He gathers the lambs…

just as Christ does the church.

Christ faithfully sustains and cares for His people, whom He has redeemed as His own body. His care for the church is rooted in His sacrificial love and continues through His provision, protection, and work of sanctifying her.

Eph 1:22-23 And God put everything under His feet and made Him head…
Col 1:18 And He is the head of the body, the church;…
Act 20:28 Keep watch over yourselves and the entire flock…

For we are members

Believers belong to Christ in a living union, joined to Him and to one another as His redeemed people.

1Co 12:27 Now you are the body of Christ, and each of you…
1Co 6:15 Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ?……
Rom 12:5 so in Christ we who are many are one body,…

of His body.

The church is Christ’s body, under His authority and sustained by His life. Paul grounds the marriage relationship in Christ’s faithful, sacrificial care for His church.

Eph 1:22-23 And God put everything under His feet and made Him head…
Col 1:18 And He is the head of the body, the church;…
1Co 12:12 The body is a unit, though it is composed of many parts…

“For this reason

Marriage rests on God’s creation order and reflects the relationship between Christ and the Church.

Gen 2:18-23 It is not good for the man to be alone…
Mat 19:4-6 Jesus answered, “Have you not read that from the beginning…
1Co 11:8-9 For man did not come from woman, but woman from man.…

a man will leave his father and mother

A husband establishes a new household, giving his wife priority over the family in which he was raised.

Gen 24:58 They called Rebekah and asked her, “Will you go with this man?”…
Psa 45:10-11 Listen, O daughter! Consider and incline your ear:…
Mat 19:29 And everyone who has left houses or brothers or sisters…

and be united to his wife,

Husband and wife enter an exclusive, lifelong covenant marked by faithful commitment.

Mal 2:14-15 Yet you ask, “Why?” It is because the LORD has been a witness…
1Co 7:3-4 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife,…
Pro 5:18-19 May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice…

and the two will become one flesh.”

Their union joins them in body, life, and purpose, setting marriage apart as the proper setting for sexual intimacy and family life.

Gen 2:24 For this reason a man will leave his father and mother…
1Co 6:16 Or don’t you know that he who unites himself……
Mrk 10:8 and the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer…

This mystery is profound,

Paul has been explaining marriage as God’s design in which husband and wife become one flesh. Its fullest meaning reaches beyond human marriage, revealing a purpose embedded in creation and made clear through Christ.

Col 1:26-27 the mystery that was hidden for ages and generations…
1Co 2:7 No, we speak of the mysterious and hidden wisdom of God…
Rom 16:25-26 Now to Him who is able to strengthen you by my gospel…

but I am speaking about Christ and the church.

Christ is the Bridegroom, and the church is His redeemed people. His sacrificial death, cleansing work, and faithful love define the reality to which marriage points. The church belongs to Christ in an enduring covenant and will ultimately be presented to Him in holiness.

Col 1:18 And He is the head of the body, the church;…
2Co 11:2 I am jealous for you with a godly jealousy…
Rev 19:7-9 Let us rejoice and be glad and give Him the glory.…

Nevertheless, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself,

Each husband bears a personal responsibility to love his wife with the same care he gives to his own life and well-being. Christian marriage reflects Christ’s sacrificial love for His people, requiring a husband to seek his wife’s good, protect her, and serve her faithfully. Though husbands held legal authority in the Roman world, this command calls them to exercise leadership through self-giving love rather than selfishness or harshness.

Col 3:19 Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them.
Ecc 9:9 Enjoy life with your beloved wife all the days…
1Pe 3:7 Husbands, in the same way, treat your wives…

and the wife must respect her husband.

A wife honors her husband by recognizing and supporting his God-given leadership in the home. Such respect does not diminish her dignity or worth, but expresses the ordered partnership God established in marriage. Love from the husband and respect from the wife join together in mutual faithfulness, reflecting the relationship between Christ and His Church.

1Pe 3:1-6 Wives, in the same way, submit yourselves to your husbands,…
Col 3:18 Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.
Tit 2:4-5 In this way they can train the young women…

This is a draft of the Berean Study Bible. Please send all comments and recommendations to bereanstudybible@aol.com.



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